In this global and competitive world, choosing a good funeral director can be tough. On top of that, organizing a funeral is really not easy. There is so much emotions going on. Therefore, a reliable funeral director who can help you meet your unique needs will make the situation a lot more manageable.
So the first step is up to the deceased’s next in kinship to decide. If you happen to have gone to a funeral before, it is best to contact the relatives of the deceased and ask for an unsolicited advice.
Keep in mind that it is important that you and your funeral director are on the same page. Hence, always organize a meeting before signing any kinds of contract. If you think you are not pleased at the initial consultation, then it is best that you find another service elsewhere.
In the first place, what is the role of a funeral director? A funeral director will tend to the body, coffin, viewing, and then process all of the necessary legal requirements for you. Additionally, he will show you your options about where the venue and the ceremony will take place. Every small detail is important to him, like the schedule, the hearse rental and the coffin purchase. Bear in mind however, that even if you have hired a funeral director that you will have no obligations.
A good funeral director will surely have a lot of questions to ask you to meet your needs. Since your time will most likely be insufficient, make sure that you have arranged your answers ahead of time.
You will also know that you have found an excellent funeral director if he will go out of his way and go to your residence for questions before making any arrangements. Of course, he will want you to be comfortable at your own home.
As the case may be, the most vital step when looking for a funeral director is to research if they are a member of a regulatory board. One organization to look into is AFDA or Australian Funeral Directors Association.
Consequently, AFDA members are required to follow a strict Code of Ethics and Code of Conduct. It is laid out to meet both the needs of the community and the expectation in all facets of the delivery of service.
Sad to say, not everyone has the means to organize the superb send-off to the deceased. As such, price is definitely a big factor when choosing the right funeral director.
In conjunction with choosing the perfect funeral director, one of the biggest decisions you need to make is if the deceased will be buried or cremated. If a loved one has made definite instructions either verbally or written on his will, it is moral to grant it to him. However, if he decided that he wanted to be buried but you cannot bear the thought of seeing him being lowered to the ground (since cremations are cheaper) it is now on your hands to decide what is best. Regardless of the case, your funeral director can definitely help you decide. He will show you an analysis of pros and cons of burials and cremations.
Essentially, your end goal is to appoint a funeral director who will take the weight off your shoulders without him being a control freak. After all, you will be entrusting him on decisions that will have an important impact on your life and how will the deceased be remembered. For this reason, do not be scared to find something beyond a business relationship. Find a funeral director who will give you the tender loving care that you need as you go through a difficult time.
Keep in mind that a funeral director also has optional services that he can offer. For one, it is the order of service. For the most part however, this is your job to do. The funeral director will help you though with the arrangements and make sure that the event will comply with any religious, legal or personal guidelines. The choice is still up to you.
For example, do you want the funeral to be a celebration of life or a more formal?
The eve of the funeral can also be arranged by a funeral director. That is because it is more likely that family and friends meet the night before the funeral. This is the time for them to talk, cry, laugh, grieve and console each other. Thus, the funeral will be easier for them to bear.
So how do you choose a funeral director? Find one who will help you meet the legal requirements necessary for the deceased to be buried or cremated. In addition, consider the costs will meet your budget. Finally, a funeral director who will not only do business with you but will also be there for you as a friend, someone who will be there for you as you go through this difficult time.